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The fourth and final value in the Mummy’s Muse Values Series is Uninhibited.
I am not Uninhibited. This is OK and it isn’t. Some inhibitions are very necessary, they protect us and keep us safe. However, I believe we take on others as we try to conform to societal norms. I think there are others we take on because we’ve become lazy and unaccustomed to taking risks. And yet there are other inhibitions we harbour because deep down inside, we don’t believe we can take or do what we really want. I wish I cared less and could live life more like my children, they inspire me so much. Children in general do, but I do think I was gifted with two particularly spirited young ladies.
As I watch the girls grow – especially between the ages of about 6 months and 4 years – I find myself shocked and pleasantly surprised by their lack of inhibition. No holds barred, not really caring, they do what they want, when they want. They take what they want and throw away (quite literally), the things they don’t. They don’t smile on cue or try and make you feel good, they smile and say hi when they feel like it. If they aren’t in the mood, they roll onto the floor and scream to let you know. This last one is something I really wish I could get away with as an adult.
Our Inhibitions build with age
So why is it these babies and toddlers can live uninhibited and I’m here looking for the motivation and courage to let go a little? It comes down to a little developmental psychology. So it turns about between the ages of 3 to 5, the Superego part of our personalities begin to emerge.
From my Google Level Psychology, it seems to me that between the ego ideal and the conscious, the inhibitions I’m thinking of, are formed. These are inhibitions that limit us from living free. I was running the other day and I wanted to wave hi to a fellow runner, I had to talk myself into doing it. I had to actively overcome an inhibition about waving to a random person. Somewhere along the line, society or my upbringing has made me think this isn’t normal / acceptable.
I long to live free, to really live free and be true to myself. To trust my inner voice and my personality. To not be apologetic for my nature, my instincts and my reactions. I think these sharp edges that some of us have, have been blunted over time due to the fall out of situations and confrontations. I’m at a stage where I’m ready to reclaim my sharp edges…and potentially even sharpen them further. I want to lean in to who I really am, not away from it to the ‘safe centre.’
Mummy’s Muse is Uninhibited
I’m definitely on a journey where I’m trying to let go of restrictions I’ve placed on myself due to society. I think it the process started a few years ago, but it’s truly liberating. There are many manifestations of it, but to live free and true to yourself is such a wonderful feeling. It’s a part of self actualisation to me and thus a fundamental human need.
When I had the idea to start Mummy’s Muse and being inspired by the personalities of my children – Uninhibited was always going to be a key value. I feel like I have this space now to be bold. This brand can be daring because its wearers are daring. It can be non-conformist because its Muses don’t care about conformity (most can’t even pronounce it). This is the value I have to constantly check myself against. I need to ensure we’re not being vanilla and that risk taking is in the brand’s DNA. That’s the great thing about having strong values, you have something to come back and ‘mark yourself’ against.
This will be the hardest for me, but the one that will be the most exciting for the brand.
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